Right now in “Have Him at Hello” author Rachel Greenwald talks about what “date breakers” are for men. Greenwald defines date breakers as things that men do not want to hear on a first date and the top ten reasons why you will not be getting a call back. The first reason Greenwald says that women don’t get a call back is because she plays “The Bitch in Boots” this is the woman that doesn’t seem nice and often has a tough exterior. For example if a women goes on the first date with a guy and constantly reminds him that she is the boss of her company to show that she has power and that she is independent. The second character that a woman often plays when she is dating a man is “The Blah”; “The Blah” often refers to women that leave no impression. The date wasn’t bad and it wasn’t good, it was in fact nothing special and left the man thinking of something totally different at the end of the night. The third character that a woman often plays when she is dating a man is “The Park Ave Princess” which is the stuck up girl who wants it all. She is very demanding and very spoiled. “The Park Ave Princess” often brags about what she has and what she can get. She might not always be her own main provider; it might be her parents or even her rich uncle. The fifth character that a woman often plays when she is dating a man is “The Closer”. “The Closer” is the woman that is often on a mission to find a boyfriend. She is in strict interview, asking questions pertaining to the far far future, like how many kids do you want, where do you want to live, and what’s your monthly income. Which is all too much for the first date? “The Closer” can also develop a nasty habit of being a “Stage 5 Clinger”!!!! This is when a woman will not stop calling, e-mailing, phoning, or texting a man. Which according to Greenwald is a big NO NO!!!???? The sixth character that a woman often plays when she is dating a man is “The Flasher”. “The Flasher” gives off a negative vibe without even realizing it. She might often talk about her boyfriend, or something bad that happened at work or even worse something bad that happened to her girlfriends, cousins, uncles, nephew’s baby daddy. This is another NO NO!!!! On a date a guy wants to hear about you in a positive light. He wants to hear what you have accomplished without bragging about it and what you plan to accomplish without digging to deep into the future. Next week I will continue reading what a guy really hates on a first date and what character women often play when they go on a first date. I personally think that Greenwald is right about absolutely everything. I can personally fit into all of the descriptions and characters that women can be on a first date. Surprisingly I think that I can fit into all of these descriptions. When I am around some people my personality really shines and when I am around other people my personality is overshadowed or doesn’t come really shine. I think it’s all up to my comfort level. I think that when women look for man they look for someone that they have to look perfect in front of, which then makes women put up this tough exterior when all they need to do is be themselves. Men should love you for who you naturally are, not of who you try to be.
After reading this section of the book I really thought about the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You.” For those that are not familiar with the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” the movie portrays woman that often fall for guys before they fall for them, as the women continuously date they learn that maybe some guys just aren’t that into them, which is okay because some guy will be someday. As I was reading “Have Him At Hello” I felt bad for my fellow woman. I often think that we do think a guy is really into us because we are really into them, but it could be the opposite, sometimes we get the wrong impression and the guy really doesn’t just like us. I think that when women don’t get a call back from a guy after a date they think it is their entire fault. However sometimes it just not a right fit for a guy or the guy might have some issues of his own to deal with so he can not be in a relationship.
