The second book that I started reading for the spring Inquiry project is "Have Him at Hello" by Rachel Greenwald. This is a dating advice book that is aimed towards women. So far in the book I really enjoy and relate to a lot of mistakes that women make while they are dating. I am really enjoying this book so far and I cannot wait to continue on the the second half of the book.
So far in “Have Him at Hello” by Rachel Greenwald, Greenwald talks about the top mistakes that women often do on a first date that makes men not want a second. One top mistake that women make on a first date that make men not want to ask for a second date is the fact that women share too much one a first date. The first date is to get an initial reaction to someone to see if physically you like them and if you both partners have the capability to even start a relationship. It is in the second date where both partners really get to know each other. Another mistake that women make while dating is suspension that they have done something wrong. Whenever a women does not get a reaction that they think is positive they often think that something is wrong and it is their fault. When in fact what they could have said or done was not negative but just sparked something in a man’s past that reminded him of something else, women always think that if something bad happens it is their fault.
I personally think that Greenwald is right when women do not get the reaction they are look for they automatically think that something is wrong and it is their fault. I personally am very guilty, whenever I send a text or make a phone call and don’t receive a response or call back immediately I think that maybe the text was stupid or I offended the man that I sent the text to. Instead of think that they might have been busy, or that they never received the text.
I can relate to what Greenwald is saying about the first date or initial meeting between two partners. I think that women go in to the date thinking they have to tell the man their life story. I think that men often get really suffocated by the overload of information that the woman has told them.
Hello Sydney >:]
ReplyDeleteFor starters, I cann't read your blog without highlighting the text. Secondly, I love the study you're doing for your inquiry. I want to read your second book, and I can't wait to hear about your final conclusions.
I must admit, I think I would make the mistake of sharing too much info about me on the second date. I think the reason why we share so much though is because frankly, what else am I supposed to talk about? Thats why I don't really like "chill" dates (i.e. coffee and sitting) because it doesn't allow for much conversations about the setting youre in. You know? And why do we have to have a DATE just to see if youre physically attracted to me? What do they expect; me to just stand there, NOT talking about myself, so that they can analyze my body and see if theyre attracted to me. Attraction also comes from learning about a person, and I don't think you can really know if you seriously attracted to them without getting to know them. However, I still understand that giving too much info about yourself on the first date can be a mistake, and it should be left up the second date.
I agree with the other mistake - we said/did something that sparked negativity, even though we really didin't. I myself, like you, would also feel guilty and I don't ever think about maybe they're busy.
Well anyways, I definitely learned something from your blog tonight. Next time, I will definitely not blab on about myself.
We should definitely chat more about your book. I like it :)
Have a nice week!
omg i need to read this book i need that advice haha but it sounds like a really good book and an interesting project!
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