In the next section of Why We Love by Helen Fisher she goes into the things that couples that today are doing to keep the love in their relationship. Fisher surveys and interviews several couples to see what they do to keep romance alive in their relationship. One of the biggest things that each married couple said that they still have to do is keep the intimacy alive, by continously responding to their partners sexual desires. Fisher also surveys married couples to figure out their connection towards each other. Fisher explains that men have always jockeyed status to win mates and how women have a more emotional connection and often connect to another mate my personal reflections on themselves or other people. Women are usually attracted to status, money, time and connections. Men however can sometimes be attracted to the opposite. Men are more so attracted to the "fit " that women can balance into their lives. Fit meaning how they interact with friends, parents, co workers, and overall life. If women will be controlling or let the man be the leader.
In class this week we talked a lot about true love and where that comes from and if a soul mate can last forever. I think that this part of the book can very well answer that. I think that romance can last forever if the partners are welling to sacrifice for each other. In Why We Love Fisher explains that intimacy is one thing that each partner must provide for the other. I think that together is a sacrifice that each partner must make for each other. I also think that Fisher was right when she explained what men and women are attracted to. I think that women for the most part are attracted to a man's status and how controlling he is towards her. I think that women do look for men that will take the lead and show power within the relationship. Rarely do you hear women paying the bill on the first date and women opening the car door for a man. The man is expected to do most of the physical work in the relationship.
I agree within my Mr.Right list I do look for a man that can take control when it is needed. I am personally not attracted to someone that wants me to do all of the work in the relationship. I do also expect for the man to be chivalrous towards me and open the car door or any door in that manner and to pay the bill on the date, and overall live up to the expections that have already been set out for him. I remember that I met a guy and I really liked him however I refused to call him because I thought that it was the man's job to contact that girl. So I waited and waited and three months later the guy decided to call me and well we were talking he asked me why I never called him. Not only was I surprised at his question I was apauled that he expected me to call him. This is just one example of how women expect men to take the lead in the relationship.
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